Conscious: Fully Aware Awake Feeling Responsive

Kink:

Alternative sexuality; anything that feels outside of mainstream narratives around sexuality.

Through Kink we can be our most creative selves

What is kink?

What is the first thing that comes into your mind when you think of kink? 50 shades of grey? Leather, latex, and ropes? The truth is that there are no limits to what can be considered kinky.

Kink is merely a catch-all for the aspects of our sexuality that don’t often get reflected back to us in the mainstream. 

What I love about kink is that it gives voice to all aspects of our sexuality that might be otherwise shamed or stigmatized. It breathes life into our eroticism of the taboo. Through kink we can be our most creative and dark selves while still practicing integrity in our communication and boundaries. 

Because kink is so expansive, it demands a high level of communication and understanding of our desires and boundaries so that we can negotiate consent with our partners. Through kink our once secret and hidden fantasies can be actualized bringing us immense pleasure and connection. However, in doing so we have to actually describe, define and specify what it is that we desire so that these desires can be met by others. 

This is an enormous opportunity to commune with our deepest cravings and listen to that voice in our gut and our sex that speaks clearly to what turns us on and makes us feel alive. This can take practice and is understandable if it doesn’t come immediately with ease. 

Part of our work together will be to strengthen these muscles so that you can develop a strong relationship with your desires. We will work on how to negotiate with your partners and bring play and sensuality and spark into your sexual relationships and encounters. 

So what is conscious kink?

 

Conscious kink is the understanding that kink can be a powerful tool for growth and transformation when approached with intention. 

 

In our Conscious Kink work together, we will explore your kinks with curiosity, taking you into the “why” of your turn-ons and how we can integrate this understanding into creating deeper meanings for your life and relationships. 

 

For example, if you feel shame and guilt around a particular sexual practice, we will work on understanding how you came to feel that shame and how to move through that shame, transmuting it into a sense of liberation and play. You will learn how to witness your experiences without judgment. Through mindful discussion and opening to your own vulnerabilities, together we can drop deeper into ourselves and our lives.